Unofficial Guide to Online Dating – What Not To Do On a First Date
My unofficial guide to online dating. Better known as, what men shouldn’t do on a first date…
As a single woman I’ve had my fair share of first dates. I’ve also had my taste of online dating. Dating can be… well, interesting. After having a few “no, he didn’t” moments I thought I would write a list of tips on what not to do on a first date.
So you met your date in the parking garage of the restaurant so you could walk in together, how sweet. That makes the introductions a little less awkward. This however, does not mean she wants to hold your hand while you walk through downtown to the restaurant. You just met, it’s only been five seconds, you are still a stranger, women do not walk the streets holding hands with strangers.
- You are running early for your date so you decide to meet a friend for a pre-dinner drink and invite your date to meet up with the two of you before heading to the restaurant. Seems fair enough… That does not mean have your date sit at the bar watching your friend drunkenly slur over his current breakup to the point you must give him a sober ride home before dinner. Two hours wasted on a babysitter and your date is beyond starving and disgusted.
- Online dating profiles can be vague or over-stuffed with information. An interest was sparked enough for the two of you to agree to meet. Most online daters have read a dozen profiles, information can get mixed up so make sure you prep. Women care about details and will try their hardest to refresh their own memory before going on the first date. Act like you care, invest a few minutes and read the profile again. At least seem like you know who you are on a date with.
- Have your own views. Don’t steal hers. Easygoing and outgoing are great traits to have, of course. However, try not to answer a question with a question and you don’t have to always agree just to agree. Have your own identity. Most women are looking for a strong man whose personality meshes well with theirs, not a chameleon.
- Feel free to discuss what lead to your previous divorce. Share stories and experiences, that’s how you get to know one another. Whatever you do, do not spend the whole lunch hour bashing your former spouse, it reflects poorly on you. Always remember, you are sitting across the table from another woman that is now gauging how well you react to disagreements, no matter how large.
- Have a good time. It’s that simple. Try not to get drunk on your first date no matter how nervous you are. Be sincere, show you care and have respect. Enjoy the company and if it goes well, great, if not move along. As long as the two of you are comfortable in your own skin you should never try to change one another. It’s okay if it’s not going anywhere. You won’t mesh with everyone.
Have you ever tried an online dating site? If you are married, do you remember your very first date with your husband? Was it a disaster or perfect?