When Gabby’s seizures started becoming daily and her moods changed right along with them, I needed all the advice I could get. She not only started suffering from Mood Disorder and ADHD but she just became angry altogether. Of course who wouldn’t be angry after all the hospital stays, surgeries, 13 IVs in one visit, list goes on and on?! I took several Parenting classes while Gabby was in the hospital. I took Love and Logic, 1 2 3 Magic and I watched a few other videos that the hospital staff offered. I learned lots of great tips from each class and video. After raising one child and then having another that is completely different, it truly threw me off. I was able to experience first hand that what works with one child doesn’t necessarily work with the next.
I recently have been reviewing the Total Transformation Program. When I first started I watched the intro DVD which made me even more excited to jump in. The DVD showed other parents talking about their kids and giving their testimonies of what they learned from the program. Hearing their stories really hit home because some of the things they said were exactly the same words I have heard come out of my own mouth before. Before starting the first level I took the pre-test in the workbook. I was sure that my answers were going to be the same after I listened to the first audio CD. To my surprised I actually started learning new tips and was given a different view after just one level. When returning to the workbook to complete the first section and taking the test again, my answers were different.
Some of my first favorite quotes from The Total Transformation Program:
‘You don’t have to attend every fight that you’re invited to.’ I love this one. In my home you will hear me telling my oldest at various times that we need to chose our battles when it comes to her younger sibling. If I fought out everything all day long it would be pretty miserable in my home.
‘Just like a plant, if you water the plant then it will grow, if you don’t water it then it will die.’ Again this is the same as above. When Gabby is throwing her tantrums and very angry. If I walk away half the time she doesn’t even remember why she was mad three minutes later. Ignore, ignore, ignore; that’s what I try to practice.
‘The child has trained the parent to give in and then the parent tries to train everyone else to change in order to handle the child.’ This was a nice reminder that I needed. I have caught myself at times giving Gabby a free pass and blaming her disabilities when in reality the child behavior issues need to be addressed. I also worry that others will be too hard on her or catch myself saying things like ‘they just don’t understand’. Now don’t get me wrong, raising a child with special needs is a challenge and is not the same as raising a child without special needs. But sometimes the issues can be addressed exactly the same way. So this quote was a nice reminder to not turn the other cheek and allow myself to be trained.
I can’t wait to finish the whole program. Gabby has been struggling lately with her disabilities and we have several tests coming up. Once things are straightened out I hope to blog more about our progress using this program.
Full Disclosure: MommaDJane.com was sent The Total Transformation Program to review free of charge. All opinions on the program listed in this blog post are 100% mine.