How to deal with a sassy daughter

For this week’s Because I Said So Buck and I decided to ask each other parenting questions relating to our own children.

Buck’s Question to Me: I have noticed my daughter has grown a little sassy. It is not a huge problem yet but I want to cut it off at the past, got any advice?

Your little girl is sassy?  All girls are sassy, didn’t you know that?  On a serious note, I think many families go through this, especially with little girls.  I know I was a little sassy and so were both of my girls.  I must admit I was probably a little guilty of letting this happen.  In my family’s situation I think my children were a little too spoiled which might have caused some of it.  When it first started when they were toddlers they would say something sassy that seemed ‘cute‘ at the time.  Maybe there was a little giggling involved.  Or there has been times where I responded in the same sassy way back at them, probably encouraging it some.  When I look back at these times I realize it wasn’t the correct way to handle it.  Giggling at my daughter having (what I thought at the time) a cute, little attitude isn’t so funny now.

I’m not sure there is a real ‘cure‘ for stopping her from being sassy, except not allowing it.  As soon as it happens, keep a straight face, don’t respond in any way except saying ‘that is absolutely not allowed’.  Also even though the old saying is ‘do as I say, not as I do‘ that isn’t the case and children will do as you do.  I have to remind myself of that on several occasions.

Readers: Have any advice on this topic?  I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.  Buck and I would appreciate any input and love conversation.

I am headed over to read Buck’s answer to my parenting question for my tween.  You coming?

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